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03 July 2018 @ 06:39 am
“Adulting” as a straight white concept [JSTOR Daily]

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Elenbarathi: Abandon hopeelenbarathi on July 3rd, 2018 05:47 pm (UTC)
Yeah, but that's not what millennials are generally talking about when they use the term 'adulting'. It's not "Oh, I should get married, buy a house and have kids" - it's more like "Oh, I should clean my house, save some money, stop eating junk, and decide what I want to be when I grow up (besides just 'not poor'.)"
eub on July 5th, 2018 08:30 am (UTC)
I'm sure it varies by which crowd is using it, but the usage I hear tends towards having your social/emotional shit together, like taking responsibility, figuring out what you want, communicating it... In a way not far off from what "grow up!" is commanding.

Not saying it carries zero cultural presumptions, but the presumptions I'd check first are about neurotypicality. People with ADD can execute these adult functions and still get looked at as not doing adulthood the right way.
Elenbarathi: Abandon hopeelenbarathi on July 6th, 2018 01:32 am (UTC)
Ohhh yes. There's a huge amount of stigma around executive-function glitches; they're almost invariably perceived as character-flaws rather than as disabilities.

My elder sister threw that "Grow up!" at me one time. I had to point out that since I was past 50 at the time, it was unlikely I would 'grow up' any more than I already had. She's on the spectrum too, though she doesn't admit to it, and what she really meant was "Pass better!" I took her advice and stopped letting my relatives know about my problems - all they ever hear from me now is Christmas-letter cheeriness. I suppose 'maturity' could be construed as the point at which one no longer relies on one's birth-family, so by that definition, I'm now fully grown.