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22 July 2015 @ 07:20 am
America’s oldest communal passion: the ecstasy of sanctimony--Philip Roth
We're having another one. The poly dating site Ashley Madison was hacked, and lots of narrow-minded people are going, "Cheaty bastards have it coming to them!" bart_calendar attempts to reason with them.
Dr. Ben Mack: Prominent User of the Internetepi_lj on July 22nd, 2015 12:25 pm (UTC)
I don't know that I'd really call it a poly dating site. I mean, while their marketing could have been seen as ambiguous if one were really trying, it did seem like it was targeted very much at cheating rather than poly -- i.e. that your partner being *not* okay with it (and probably unaware) was part of the excitement for its userbase.
FilkerDavefilkerdave on July 22nd, 2015 01:52 pm (UTC)
I don't think "poly dating site" is a good description of a business with the slogan, "Life is short. Have an affair."
El Coyote Gordo: coy1supergee on July 22nd, 2015 03:30 pm (UTC)
So poly people couldn't use it? I think what Bart is saying is the site may not deserve our sympathy, but a lot of the people who used it don't deserve to be outed.
FilkerDavefilkerdave on July 22nd, 2015 03:35 pm (UTC)
Oh, nobody who uses it deserves to be outed for using it.
A Wandering Hobbitredbird on July 22nd, 2015 03:39 pm (UTC)
Poly people could use it, but if I was looking for more partners, I wouldn't be signing up for a site where I would expect the other user to be startled and probably dismayed if I said that I wanted to meet their existing partner, and tell them cheerfully about mine. "My wife doesn't understand me" is a cliche, and someone from that mindset probably isn't going to click well with my "I always have Thanksgiving with Cattitude and Adrian, and carving the bird is my job when cooking/eating with either or both of them."