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22 November 2013 @ 07:44 pm
When I was born, the "mixed" marriage (Jewish/Gentile) that produced me made conventional people have to suppress their gag reflex. That was more than 70 years ago. At Swarthmore in the 60s, there were enough of us Halfies to be a recognizable group, and by now that sort of thing is so ordinary it doesn't even register. We figured the same thing would happen with people of recognizably different "races," and it has. Some of today's Halfies.
Maia Cmaiac on November 23rd, 2013 01:25 pm (UTC)
A friend has an adopted son. When someone from the adoption agency said to her, "We have a baby, but he's mixed race," she replied, "Human and what else?"

The agency worker said, "You don't understand--"

"No, you don't understand. Human and what else?"

It saddens me that there are people who would have rejected the baby because his birth parents had different skin colors.

...The concept of "Halfies" has narrowed somewhat since my father's maternal grandparents, both the children of German immigrants, were appalled that their daughter wanted to marry a descendant of Irish immigrants instead of a good German like themselves. (I can't imagine what they'd have said if they'd known his grandparents weren't Catholic.) I look forward to seeing it dwindle away to nothing.
fjmfjm on November 23rd, 2013 02:06 pm (UTC)

My great uncle had to go to court to get permission to marry his under age (under 21) girlfriend. Her parents objected because they were German Jews and he was part of that Russian rabble.
Kalimackalimac on November 23rd, 2013 02:29 pm (UTC)
It would have been nice if your friend had found a way of saying "I don't care about race" without being a dick about it.
A Wandering Hobbitredbird on November 23rd, 2013 04:48 pm (UTC)
I don't think it's being a dick to call someone out on their assumption that I am likely to be a racist, or to act in a racist way in the specific situation. The social worker could equally well have started with "we have a baby, he's $age weeks old, would you like to see a picture?" As asked, they are treating being mixed-race as automatically a difficulty, whether for the child himself or for the parents.
Kalimackalimac on November 23rd, 2013 05:10 pm (UTC)
Let me rephrase, then. It would have been nice if the friend had found a way of calling the person out on this assumption without being a dick about it.