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browngirl on July 22nd, 2013 08:42 pm (UTC)
What is this Earth logic?
chasing the soul: afrorealnovapsyche on July 22nd, 2013 09:06 pm (UTC)
I agree with all points.

About the pregnant lady thing: I think the mystery of another bodily being ensconced inside someone else is difficult to resist. Despite the fact that pregnancy happens all the time, it is continually mystifying. Touching the belly & feeling a kick or two clarifies the mystery. So I understand the inclination to put the hand there. But always ask permission! (I think part of the problem is that the female body is seen in patriarchal societies as being universal social property [especially for comments but also for touching].)

As for black peoples' hair, I have at least seen a marked decrease in the attempts of others to feel my hair since I began shaving it off or as close thereto as possible. Maybe people don't see hair as being part of the body, whereas a bald head is (obviously) so.
Carol Kennedycakmpls on July 22nd, 2013 10:42 pm (UTC)
I have never had any inclination to touch a pregnant woman's belly or a black person's hair. But when someone is sad or distressed, I do have a very strong impulse to put my hand on their shoulder or arm or hand.
dd-bdd_b on July 23rd, 2013 01:01 am (UTC)
I somehow missed the training that was supposed to tell me I could touch people any time I wanted. Probably just as well, since if I'd had it I'd just have to be unlearning it now.

ON average, more models than not are a bit puzzled when I formalize getting permission for touching while directing them into poses (arm, hand, sometimes back, maybe head in special cases), which is interesting, because again, my bubble on this side of the camera is pretty clear about that.
Xiphias Gladiusxiphias on July 23rd, 2013 02:28 pm (UTC)
This is something that parents in my family ENFORCE. My young relatives are asked, "Would you like a hug goodbye? Or a handshake? Or a high-five? Or not?"

Did you know that a lot of three-year-olds are more comfortable high-fiving an all-but-stranger than hugging them?

Did you know that three-year-olds should be ALLOWED to be more comfortable high-fiving an all-but-stranger than hugging them?