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01 July 2013 @ 11:52 am
One of the posts that inspired me to laugh derisively at Rod Bigg or whatever his name is and his unconvincing textual transvestism came from triciasullivan, and I point you to it because it has much else of interest to say. As a malefan, I hate being part of a culture that does the sort of thing she is talking about. I think men in all the fandoms and geek cultures should sign on to something like this:

We like women. We want women at our consWe want cons that women will attend and enjoy, so we want them to be safe and comfortable at them. Therefore, we do not accept groping, PUA aggressions, treating a costume as an invitation, and other such behavior at our gatherings. We want women in our online discussions, so we do not accept threats of rape or other violence in those venues. We want to read about women, much more than we want to read about men's fantasies about women. Therefore, we want more women being published, and we want the men who write about women to employ means of doing the job better, such as submitting the writing to actual women and listening to what they say.

Improved by mrissa
Luke McGuffholyoutlaw on July 1st, 2013 05:22 pm (UTC)
I think there should be something about staring in the third sentence.
El Coyote Gordo: breechessupergee on July 1st, 2013 06:45 pm (UTC)
I'd leave that out because I'd stick with invasive behavior that can't be explained away as merely clueless/autistic.
Marissa Lingenmrissa on July 1st, 2013 06:30 pm (UTC)
"We want women at our cons" sounds pretty possessive to me, like cons are properly the property of men and the good men are sharing them with women. Since I know you, I know this is not what you mean, but "we want to go to cons with women" or "we want to go to cons where people of all sexes/genders are welcome" would feel a little less like that.
El Coyote Gordo: actualsupergee on July 1st, 2013 06:46 pm (UTC)
You have improved it. Thank you.
browngirl on July 2nd, 2013 12:53 am (UTC)
I feel distinctly safer and happier just seeing this said aloud. Thank you. (Not least for leaving in the edits.)
et in Arcadia egoboo: Chicago (from Adler)apostle_of_eris on July 2nd, 2013 03:54 pm (UTC)
Maybe I should take up astrology. That might explain the statistically improbable myriad of sexist shit storms flying around.
At first glance, I thought this was about one or another different current flaps. Then I double-checked the link and found that it's one that's new to me. Well, since I'm uncertain how well I know “women”, and I have read neither Anna Karenina nor Madame Bovary, I don't have much of an opinion on whether "men can write women." Oddly, I can't recall a conversation on whether women can write men.