September 2nd, 2014

reclining

Rich fantasy life

I am pathologically vanilla about sex. My attitude towards power and domination is so phobic that I don't want that stuff anywhere near my sex life. The healthy part is that I have no desire to keep others from doing it. Here Cecilia Tan, who writes excellent fiction about BDSM, has written a thoughtful discussion making clear that the line between fantasy and reality defines consent.